Goodbye Dustie Jack

I will be the first to admit that I am not a pet person. Never have been. I don’t get butterflies and warm fuzzies when people walk by me on the street with their dogs, I think cats are weird, and I detest rabbits (the two-teeth scar on my hand may have something to do with that).

But it only takes one.

I was 12-years old when my oldest brother brought Dustie Jack home. I remember the first time I saw her, a young pup running around our driveway. I didn’t really give her a second thought over the next eight years other than Oh, she bit you again?, Just keep her outside, and It sucks that mom and dad got stuck with Josh’s dog. 

That last thought needs a little more explanation. My brother had to move, to California, and Dustie Jack proved to be anything but a travel dog. She had a panic attack as soon as you brought her near your car, even if it was just for a joyride. My older brother is an animal-lover/protector/saver, and it broke his heart to leave his dog behind, but the decision had to be made. The duty of taking care of the dog fell to my youngest brothers. She stayed outside, away from most humans, for the first half of her life. My mom (who never wanted the dog) started realizing how cold it was during the winter, and Dustie was given a place in the garage. The garage soon became the mudroom, the mudroom soon became the kitchen and dining room, the kitchen and dining room soon became a designated rug at the entrance of the carpeted living room. After 8 or 9 years as an outdoor dog, Dustie became and indoor one (yeah, she is pretty smart like that— she didn’t need anyone to tell her where to go to the bathroom, she just knew).

But being an outside dog, and living in the country, and having rare human interaction, gave Dustie a wild streak. In other words, she had a temper. Especially when it came to small animals (she gave our neighbor dog a hundred stitches once, or a hundred dollars worth of stitches, I can’t remember— my dad said the little yapper had it coming) and small people, like babies and such—she didn’t like ‘em. Then one Christmas, she bit my friend (it was terrible, my friend- being a dog person- was very forgiving, but… it was terrible) and my mom discussed putting her down because it wasn’t safe having my little niece and nephew around an unstable dog.

This happened when I was 21. I have no idea what came over me but I all of a sudden found myself in a state of disbelief. YOU CAN’T PUT MY DOG DOWN. Wait… since when did Dustie become my dog? I mean… she wasn’t. But she was, and I felt this need, an urge, to protect her. I offered to take Dustie to my place in Kalamazoo (yes, this town exists) anytime my niece and nephew came to visit. I am pretty sure nobody believed me at first, but I insisted— and my mom relented. She didn’t want to let go of Dustie either, looks like the rest of the family had gotten attached too.

I took Dustie back to my college town that very week. She cried and whimpered the whole way (still not being a travel dog), and almost caused me to get in a car wreck, or two. I remember my windshield window being disgusting, with all of her wet-nose marks. That first week Dustie stayed with me, and I took care of her, caused something to shift in both of us. She loved the house that I shared with my sister. All used furniture so she could hang out and lay on whatever she pleased, walks around the neighborhood marking her territory, and when bedtime came— there she was in my tiny twin-sized bed, which was NOT big enough for the both of us.

Dustie became loyal to me, and I fell in love with her. I brought her to stay with me for a week at a time on several occasions throughout the next two years. She treated it as her “summer cottage”. She even started doing better in the car. When I would come home to visit she greeted me as if I was her favorite person in the world, and then she would run out to my car, expecting me to take her back with her.

She became my friend, and even tried to like what I liked (always begging for nacho cheese doritoes— though I told her every time that she didn’t like the cheese flavor). She was always waiting for me when I came home, and hated it when I had to lock her out of my room because I actually needed a good night’s rest.

So… this is why people have dogs.

I am not a pet person.

I am a Dustie Jack person.

In her old age she lost her temper and behaved really well around other dogs, and children. I believe she changed because she experienced the love from her owners that she should have gotten her whole life. Over the past seven/eight years, she was no longer looked at as, “Josh’s old pet” or “that dog”.

Dustie became family.

And today my family has to say good-bye to her.

I already miss you so much Dustie Jack. Thank you for being the only dog I will ever truly love.

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On my 4th Christmas Away

The first Christmas I ever celebrated away from home was when I was 15 years old, but I was still with family. I had my sister Amber by my side and we flew down (the flight was a bit traumatic- we can skip that part of the story) and spent time with my grandparents in sunny Florida. It was weird to have a Christmas with absolutely no snow! And spending it with so few people.

The second, third, and now fourth Christmas I have spent away from home have been here in South Korea. This time around was probably the least sad I felt being away for the  holidays, and it is all thanks to technology.

It was around 12:30 a.m. (I think?) on Christmas Eve for me when I first face-timed my sister Amie. She watched me open the gifts she sent and we laughed and smiled together as she explained what they were for. Then I got on my computer and Skyped in with the whole fam. After some lovely chit-chat with everyone and being paraded around the living room (and once Josh finally got out of the shower) they set me up on a footstool in the middle and started passing around presents.

I have never felt so involved in a Christmas while living on the other side of the world. Darla and Amber did selcas with me (that is the Korea term for “self camera shots”, very popular here in Korea), which I still haven’t seen the pictures of yet (hey!)… And instead of opening their gifts in front of the aunts and uncles and grandparents that actually got them gifts (I didn’t send anything from Korea, oops), my niece and nephew spent the whole time in front of the computer opening each present in front of the camera with phrases like “What do you think is in the box Auntie Melody?” “OH, LOOK WHAT I GOT!” and “I love you!”

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(my position on the living room, a little pixellated, but you know— there was so much movement! That is Noah’s blond head in the front, haha)

My heart has never been so full. I was remembering back to when Izzie and Noah hated to  talk to me over Skype (they didn’t really get it, and there was so much playing for them to do), and now Izzie knows exactly where to hold her pink pick for their pink ukulele so that I can see it up close on camera.

Here’s to hoping I make it home next Christmas, but knowing that I will survive if I can’t. I like you technology, and I adore my family, they make me whole!

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My First Senior Pics!

My brother trusted me enough to let me take his senior pictures. A tradition done only in America (uh… I think), when you head into your senior year of high school you have professional shots taken of you for the yearbook and you order wallets for your friends.

Out of the 94 I ended up editing for my brother (I know, I know— how will he choose?!), these are my top favorites…

 

not a senior picture, but I loved it nonetheless :)

 

So there you have it, isn’t my brother adorable? I think so!

When I come home.

I know I am home when three laptops cannot be on the same internet connection at my parent’s house at the same time/even when I am the only one on I have to wait five minutes for a page to load (slight exaggeration, slight).

I can/have to drive everywhere, and end up wishing for the subway after three days.

I am weirded out by “small-town” talk at the grocery store.

I eat a home-cooked meal every single night. sigh… (I may have had steak three times my first week home, whahaha).

I eat Chinese food, American/Chinese food!

The beach is only an hour away, and the pool is in my backyard.

I am in weddings.

I get woken up at 6:55 a.m. by my niece and nephew. I have never loved not sleeping in until now.

I er, Jordan makes pizza.

I listen to the radio.

I miss rice.

I miss walking.

I buy teaching supplies. Can’t WAIT to get my stapler.

I laugh until I cry talking about “No pants Noah” and “No top Travis”.

I create memories to hold me over until next summer with my friends and family (though it never does “hold me over”), and I love every second of it.

I enjoy life to the fullest, just as I do in Korea, when I come home…^^

A House Full of Flowers

Roses and Peonies. Blue mason jars. The smell, and the soft, clear-see through- blue vases  are interrupting every corner of my parents house. My sister got married this weekend!!! All week the weather forecast crept up from 85 degree afternoons, to 91˚… then 92˚.

Needless to say, when the dress rehearsal started at 6 p.m. and the sun beat the back of our legs and neck (with a temperature of only 85˚)… the bridal party was excited at the prospect of a “short and sweet” wedding ceremony the next day, as requested by the groom, especially since the actual wedding would be two hours earlier, at 4 p.m.

one of the flower girls was my niece, izabelle^^

The day arrived with a cloudy overcast and a heavy wind. The sun danced through the clouds throughout the morning, and the afternoon kissed us with beautiful cloud coverage and a much calmer breeze (with a few gusts of splendid wind). The bridesmaids tossed aside our little pink fans, and instead worried slightly about giving the friends and family in attendance a little more of a show than they bargained for. But no need to worry, our dresses all stayed in place.

the bride just after putting on her dress… absolutely stunning!

The ceremony was indeed, short— but incredibly sweet, with a beautiful song performed by our sister-in-law after the touching message. And as you have probably figured out, the weather was amazing! Afterwards the bridal party hopped on our wagon-pulled-by-giant-red-tractor and took a hay ride to our designated photo shoot spot (my sister married a dentist/family farmer, what can I say???).

the cake was delicious, and pink!

The reception included a favor of pink taffy (I did NOT go around and gather up all the forgotten favor bags and stuff them in a bag for later— I totally did NOT do that) as well as a gradient layered pink cake (pictured above!). Roses and peonies were set at each table, held in place by blue mason jars (hence the first paragraph). The bride was gorgeous, and the groom seemed to be bursting at the seams with happiness (as every wedding should show!). Each of the three brothers of the groom gave witty, short, and touching toasts, and then my little sis (maid of honor) showed them up with a sweeping finish to the toasts (I may be biased), and had everyone chuckling and wiping tears from their eyes.

After the couple had their first dance to “Makin’ Plans” by Miranda Lambert, my dad surprised most of the nine children by showing off the dance lessons he had been taking with mom oer the past several months and effortlessly swept his daughter around the dance floor for their father-daughter danced, joined in later by the groom and his mother.

I didn’t get the chance to take a whole lot of pictures, since there was need for video clips to capture the night, and because I was in the wedding I had to enlist the help of my youngest brother to get walking down the aisle/ceremony moments (I am in the process of putting the clips together now— it’s not too bad considering I wasn’t available for many precious moments). But I did get some pictures, spread throughout this post.

It was an amazing start to my summer at home, I am so excited for my sister and her new husband, and for the other four weddings I get to go to this summer!!!

Here are a few more pictures..(me with my flowers, me and the bride, me and my siblings— hey, it’s my blog— I choose the pictures!!! ^^)…

Right before this picture (above) was taken there are a couple of laughing shots, as our sister-in-law called herself the “Blind Side” sister… you know, the big black man in the family photo. Don’t let her blond hair fool you though, she has been a sister in the Welton clan for over a decade!

I shall leave you with a picture of the original Welton Family, my parents and the nine children they birthed. (First time we have all been together long enough for a picture to be taken in four years!)

On being LOVED.

I already dedicated a ridiculously long post to my 27th birthday. It doesn’t really need any more attention. What I will draw attention to, is the fact that I have all-star friends. I am talking, over the fence, out of the park (and beyond) type of all-star friends. And when you live on the opposite side of the world as your family (and the friends whom you call family), having a community that loves you, flaws and all, is vital.

God didn’t create us to be alone.

As soon as this video played on Saturday at my birthday dinner, I burst into tears (I had friends who I met when I first came to Korea three years ago that had never seen me cry, so… it’s kind of a big deal), I have no words to express how beautiful my friends are— inside and out!

Thank you so much to everyone who contributed, especially Jee Young and Dyanne, I can’t believe you all made me cry!

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definitely, maybe.

and there goes five weeks. oh man, did that go by fast… as it always does! in between traveling through 19 states (and stopping by our good neighbor Canada-huggsies! the niagara falls is totally better on your side), I attended a wedding, went to a baby shower, celebrated birthdays, wrote a thesis (haha… just kidding, but I started my grad school project document!) and just ‘hung out’ with some pretty amazing people.

but watch out, summer isn’t over yet! tomorrow (today? Tuesday.) I head back to Korea (with bags full of teaching supplies and chick peas… I am totally addicted to hummus) where I will be for about two full days before I leave again. NEPAL. I am so excited for this mission trip.

I am pretty sure I haven’t fully wrapped my mind around leaving my family yet though. tonight my mom cooked up an amazing last meal for me (steak and mashed potatoes with corn and homemade bread- all my favorites! not to mention homemade ice cream with brownies and strawberries for dessert, SO YUM) and we ended the night with watching Definitely, Maybe. I freaking LOVE chick flicks ^^. It felt so normal. Just to be here. Hang out by the pool, drive to a bonfire, worship with my family at The Point (my church in MI), and then tomorrow I fly halfway around the world again.

I have such a blessed life, to be able to have such amazing people who love me all over the world. Already missing my family and friends on this side!

THE WELTONS

If there is one thing I like to talk about more than talking about myself, it would be talking about other people! :)

Especially when those other people being talked about (by me) are my family.

Before the days of big family reality TV shows there were: THE WELTONS.

My youngest brother is the only one left at home right now and he has this amazing artistic ability that I am just now recognizing because I didn’t think it was possible to have THREE really amazing artists in the family. A spotlight on J2* is much deserved, this is his blog that he has to do for school, and he does it so well!

The second to youngest brother (I decided to go in reverse order, normally you start from the oldest, but I feel like spicing it up by mixing it up, don’t get too confused) has just finished his first year at Michigan State and he recently shaved his head. He also wrote me an email telling me his hopes and desires (in a “dude, what’s up yo?” sort of way) and let me tell you, T is mad smart and witty and strong, even without his hair.

G, she is the baby sister of the family (poor thing) and she is mad talented musically. My sis can sing you into tears of happiness/joy/sadness, you name it. She makes you feel. And even though she goes to my university’s rival school Central (because sometimes I pretend to care about such things), she is still cool.

H. Psshhh, she is going to take over the world at the age of 27, calling it right now. Not only did she graduate in 3 1/2 years (from Michigan State) and get a job in Chicago right out of the gate, she now works in Ann Arbor (back in the home state!) for GOOGLE. Don’t hate.

A2 is, in essence, a rock star. She took my advice (I like to think) and studied abroad, so she is extremely cultured. And yet, she is rocking the home roots of our small one stop-light town, loving the comfortableness (how can that not be a word?) of  cowboy boots and jeans while living in the oldest farmhouse in Barry County (raising cows to slaughter) and getting promotion after promotion at her job. She has to manage a lot of men in the truck rental industry and she does it with class.

The first wave of mad artistic ability came from my older bro, S, who went to U of M (yeah, we are spread out among the universities in Michigan, we like to play fair) because he is a very intelligent human being. Check him out on Vimeo. He is ridiculous.

As the oldest sister of the fam, A1 produced the two best looking children I have ever seen (link to her blog where she posts many pictures of the two best looking children). Honest. I am not just saying that because I am their Aunt (okay, I very well could be saying that because I am their Aunt). They are the cutest, most adorable, most beautiful, children on the face of the planet. For real. Anyway, back to A1, she is also talented (go figure), she can sing, she can play the piano (really well), she composes music (she composed a piece for a friend’s wedding dance song- WOW), and she is supermom. She is also married to this cool guy who is the brother of my oldest brother’s wife… K is super talented as far as lights and sounds systems go.

J1 KILLS IT as my big brother, I have no idea how I would act if I had to be the oldest out of nine… I feel very protected (except for when he is predicting my death) by J1, who is married to D (you know, the sister of K, A1′s husband, haha and YES totally legal), an amazingly beautiful woman of God who can bring the house down when she opens her mouth to sing. SO MUCH TALENT in my fam! J1 started up his own welding business (Brown Dog Welding) , he creates the most amazing things (the artist who tops them all), check him out.

Where do I even begin when talking about my mom and pops? After working in a factory for 30 years my dad started his own real estate business (with my mom) and is now the landlord of several homes and apartments. He can fix/do anything (include build a log house), he is the most stable man I know, he is (in my opinion) the greatest dad in the world. My mom, after having nine children (home-schooling all  of us, with the exception of little J2, at one point or another…yes we are that stereotypical big Christian family… or are we?!) decided to go to college and graduated at the top of her class (before I graduated from uni even though we started the same year… uh, I took my time to make sure I was really educated???) with a degree in nursing.

Yes, I do like to talk about other people. Especially my family. This picture was taken several years ago (it is kind of hard to get us all together) but its the most recent one I have.^^

*All names have been replaced by first initial, for safety reasons you know (since I am not posting their life stories on this blog, or pictures, or anything…).

xoxo,                                                                                                                                                       M

p.s. I apologize for my love and overuse of parenthesis, I just like to get as much information as possible (and have many afterthoughts/add-ons).

smiles

Fact: Kids get bored easily.

Fact: Kids can be entertained by the same thing over and over and over again, not tiring (or getting bored of it) easily.

interesting.

I recently read about this blog that is dedicated to what makes people smile. Those deep, warm, melts you from the top of your head to the tip of your toes, kind of smiles. It got me to thinking about how often I smile, and what I smile about.

I smile at my students, who are constantly saying ridiculous and funny things (I wish I had a mental tape recorder to plug into my computer- aka a better memory- if I don’t write them down right away I forget).

I smile over a fantastic cup of hot chocolate with whipped cream and chocolate drizzle. There is a coffee shop right by my apartment that I frequently go to because they warm their hot chocolate to JUST the right temperature. I am impatient (when it comes to eating and drinking hot things, when it comes to my students…well, I am working on it) and want to drink my delicious cup of chocolately goodness RIGHT AWAY and the good folks at Sugar Rings know how to hand out the cup of hot chocolate at just the right temperature for me to start drinking it and it STAYS warm until the very end. Yeah, I smile deeply over my cup of cocoa.

I smile when I worship, nothing compares to my intimate time with the big G-O-D.

I smile at the thought of my family and friends, because I love them.

I smile, really smile, when I see a father in public interacting with his son or daughter… there is something about it that tugs at my heart-strings every single time.

What makes you smile?

this boy make me smile. i took my students outside to get pictures of them looking up at the clouds. there were no clouds (the one time I want them, come on Korea...)

finding america again

goodbye: 12:30 p.m. saturday, south korea.

hello: 6:40 a.m. sunday, usa.

time elapsed from leaving apartment in seoul and arriving to the baggage claim area in detroit michigan:

32 hours, 10 minutes.

waiting for flight #1 (out of 3) at Incheon Airport!

bag arrives and big brother Josh appears through the windows of the airport pick up zone at 7 a.m. I get in the truck and he offers me a coke. “Josh, I quit drinking coke over seven months ago.”

‘Why would you do that?” Josh, who probably drinks the same amount of coke I used to (which is a BIG feat) shakes his head and mutters something about hearing that a while ago *he obviously doesn’t read my blog or e-mails home. But at least he wakes up really early on a Sunday morning to get me from the airport. Thanks bro. The kit-kats for breakfast were awesome too!

I stayed awake all day and stumbled into my brother’s guest bed around 11:30 that night… over 48 hours after I left my room in Seoul. I was probably jet lagged until today (Friday, Christmas Eve) haha… my body is going to finally adjust and then I head back home… oh well…

I completely forgot that dishwashers existed.

Eight months ago, when I hopped over to Maryland for a friend’s wedding I was talking to every cashier, every random walker, every person who crossed my path. Now, I stare blankly when a stranger says something as if I don’t know English. I was in the post office, mailing letters (as you do in a post office) and someone said something to me-who knows what-I didn’t even do the normal acknowledgement sound or smile… I literally just stared blankly and kept putting stamps on the letters. She probably thought I was mute.

I also forgot mailboxes along the road in the country existed, I got the mail for my family the other day (two letters were actually FOR ME, I don’t even live here!), it was neat.

Coming back to my parents’ house in good ol Middleville, I was really excited to drive for the first time in 16 months. After discovering I left my license in Korea my Dad laughed when I mentioned borrowing the car. Then, we realized I turned 25 in Korea MEANING my license expired anyway. I thought getting it renewed would be the worst hassle (being used to doing paperwork in a foreign country), one piece of paper and a fabulous new license picture later and I can drive!

merry christmas